![]() What are some core staples I should invest in? Power blazers? What do you personally notice in another women that signals to you "oh she's got IT" - watch, bags? I'm up for the challenge, but would love some advice on how to go about shopping and putting together a wardrobe staple that displays "confident, professional, classy, I roll with the big boys and big budget/clients" kind of wardrobe.Īre there stores/brands that you recommend that cater to this look? The problem is that like most people I've been working remote since 2020, and before that, had a very internal, could show up in my sweatshirt kind of job. ![]() People shouting DIVORCE are being too reactionary in my opinion.įorgive me for what I obviously know is a superficial and probably problematic question, but I need some help! I'm starting a job that's going to be VERY client-focused, external business meetings, and there's kind of an implicit expectation that everyone who does this role needs to be polished, "put together", you can trust me with million-dollar budget kind of looking. I did find some of the comments to be a bit extreme, but perhaps that is my own fault for not clarifying things more? I love my husband with all of my heart there is no way I'm leaving him. I really appreciate it and I definitely have some things to consider and reflect on. I don't know what to do.ĮDIT EDIT: Thank you for all of your input. I feel so guilty and selfish for feeling this way. I find myself drifting my gaze from him and watching a lot more porn on my own. I find myself not wanting sex as much now. We do the same few positions in the same place. But now, sex will last a couple of minutes and he won't even try to get me off once he does, unless I say something. He really tried and seemed to enjoy it all. At least when we first started dating there was more adventure and playfulness in the bedroom. I would constantly tell myself, he's an incredible human after all, whom I adore, the sex should get better and better over time, right? And he can always just lose some weight and things will get back on track? Right? Over the years, I've respectfully brought up him losing some weight, but ultimately nothing has changed. I had never been with someone who was out of shape and sometimes all I could focus on while have sex was his belly, which turned me off big time. And I successfully pushed it out of my brain for a while, but ultimately you can't force what you're sexually attracted to. That last one always made me feel so selfish and judgy for feeling. He's a good-looking man with his clothes on, but is physically out of shape and has a belly, which unfortunately prohibits us from doing some positions. Things like him needing sex a bit less than I do, him not being as into some kinks that I'm very into (nothing major, I like to be man handled and perhaps wear a leash every now and then), and his physical appearance. When we first started dating, up until now (6 years later), I've pushed aside a lot of physical and sexual wants, that I always deemed unimportant in the grand scheme of things. I've been finding myself being less and less sexually attracted to him. ![]() We share many hobbies, passions, opinions, and views of the world. He's empathetic, supportive, successful, kind, funny, and playful. Religious practices defying logic? No shit sherlock.įirst off let me say that my husband is an incredible man in so many ways. Like assuming I don't actually know this. Like scientifically it is proven unhealthy. Then he said but you DO know it's unhealthy right right right. I just shrugged cause I'm used to it and gave no response. Then this fucking week, I said I am going to be fasting next month when he was talking about intermittent fasting and he said the no water thing is terrible. He just like it's a no brainer you HAVE to put more. One time we made small talk and he mentioned his girlfriend and I asked the girlfriend's name and let's say it's Mary, and he said Mary but you wouldn't like it if it's Bob right? And I just felt so idk like an exhibit? Like is this the first time you meet a Muslim woman and you assumed I am homophobic? When we talked about pensions he said matter of factly that you should just put a lot in your pension and I said well it depends on their circumstances, beyond the minimum it takes for maximum matched contribution, some people just need the extra cash every month. I joked and said sorry did you just mansplain to me he said I think that term is offensive then I said sorry. Like explaining assertiveness on a fucking casual convo about personality types. But it's always fucking condescendingly explaining basic shit to me. I just fucking hate this guy at work who I can't articulate my reasons but the way he talks to me is like I am a fucking sub-human. For context I am a Muslim hijab wearing girl who migrated from a developing country.
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